As a professional photographer, it’s disheartening to occasionally hear stories of individuals misusing photography as a guise for unprofessional behaviour. For anyone considering a shoot, especially new models, here are some tips to help you identify potential red flags and ensure your experience is safe and positive. I would expect you to hold me to these standards, as per anyone else.
1. Chaperones Are a Right, Not a Privilege
Before committing to a shoot, ask if you can bring a chaperone. A professional photographer will not only agree but will also support the idea, as your comfort is essential for a successful session. If they react poorly - whether with defensiveness, irritation, or outright refusal - consider this a red flag.
Chaperones, such as a trusted friend or fellow model, can provide you with peace of mind during the shoot. While bringing partners might seem logical, I often recommend avoiding this as it can add unnecessary dynamics - models may feel self-conscious about their partner’s presence, and it might inadvertently influence their confidence or posing.
The important takeaway here is this: even if you don’t plan to bring someone, simply asking the question can reveal a lot about a photographer’s professionalism and intentions.
2. A One-Dimensional Portfolio is Concerning
A professional photographer’s portfolio should showcase a variety of skills and styles, reflecting their ability to master the basics: lighting, composition, posing, and creative direction. If someone’s portfolio exclusively features boudoir or erotic work - particularly without the technical quality or versatility to back it up - it’s worth questioning their motives for pursuing photography.
Photographers who jump straight into intimate or revealing work without developing a foundation of skill may be more interested in the subject matter than the art itself. A well-rounded portfolio is a sign of a serious photographer who values their craft, while a narrow focus can sometimes indicate ulterior motives.
For example, my speciality is food and drink photography. I’ve spent years honing my technical abilities to tell visual stories across various industries. Boudoir and intimate photography require the same level of skill and dedication, and a professional should approach them with equal respect.
3. References Are Non-Negotiable
When you’re considering working with a photographer, ask for references or testimonials from other models they’ve worked with. Platforms like PurplePort, Instagram, or other professional networking sites often include reviews or public feedback, which can provide a clear picture of a photographer’s professionalism and working style.
If a photographer cannot provide references - or is evasive when you ask - that’s a significant red flag. Trustworthy photographers are proud of their work and the relationships they build with models. They’ll be more than happy to connect you with others who can share their experiences.
Always prioritise transparency. A photographer with nothing to hide will answer your questions openly and honestly.
4. Unprofessional Communication
Pay close attention to how a photographer communicates with you before the shoot. If they make flirtatious or inappropriate comments - especially if you didn’t steer the conversation that way - it’s a sign of unprofessional behaviour.
This kind of communication often signals that they’re approaching the shoot with the wrong mindset. Don’t be afraid to set a firm boundary by politely asking them to stop. How they respond will tell you a lot: a professional will respect your boundary immediately, while someone with poor intentions may become defensive or dismissive.
Your comfort and confidence should be their priority. If a photographer can’t treat you with respect before the session begins, it’s unlikely they’ll behave professionally during the shoot.
5. Beware of Overinflated Egos
A strong portfolio and reputation speak for themselves. If a photographer relies on grandiose claims, name-dropping, or exaggerated self-promotion to persuade you to work with them, take a step back. This type of behaviour often stems from insecurity or a lack of real experience.
A professional photographer doesn’t need to “sell” you on their skills. Instead, they’ll focus on understanding your vision, setting clear expectations, and collaborating with you to create meaningful images. Confidence in their work will shine through without needing boastful commentary or manipulative tactics.
If you ever feel pressured or guilted into accepting a shoot - such as being told you’re “missing out” on an opportunity - trust your instincts and walk away. Great collaborations are built on mutual respect and trust, not desperation.
6. Establish Boundaries and Goals Before the Shoot
Before stepping into the studio or on location, take the time to clearly outline your goals, expectations, and boundaries with the photographer. A professional will encourage this discussion and respect whatever terms you set.
Be as specific as possible about what you’re comfortable with, particularly if the shoot involves intimate poses. A photographer should never push you to go beyond those limits. If you ever feel pressured, trust yourself and step away - your safety and comfort always come first.
That said, it’s perfectly normal for models to feel increasingly comfortable during a shoot. If, in the moment, you decide to try something more creative or outside your original plan, that’s entirely up to you. However, this progression should be led by you and never forced. A professional photographer understands that trust is earned. They’ll work within the boundaries you’ve set and focus on creating a safe, collaborative environment that allows you to perform at your best.
Final Thoughts: Professionalism is Key
Photography - especially boudoir or intimate work - requires a level of trust and respect that cannot be overstated. Any photographer you work with should approach the process with professionalism, prioritising your comfort and safety above all else.
Personally, when I step into a shoot environment, I’m focused entirely on capturing someone beautifully and artistically. Whether the subject is fully dressed or unclothed makes no difference - my role is to light, pose, and capture the image, personal distractions do not factor in.
If a photographer’s intentions seem murky or their behaviour makes you uncomfortable, don’t hesitate to say no. A positive, professional experience should leave you feeling empowered, not pressured. Armed with the above information, hopefully you can find the ideal photographer for you, and I hope you enjoy every moment of the experience.
